Some of you may be aware that we have been out of a home for 2 1/2 years. We had always wanted to build a house and had put our house one and off the market for over 2 years. The last time, we put our house up and quickly had an offer to sell – which we took. The bad part of that is that we didn’t really have the next step planned yet. We have not decided on location or a house plan.
Because we had to move out quickly, we called a friend of ours who had recently gotten married. He had moved in with his new wife and his house was vacant. He said he wanted to sell it at some point, but was in no rush. Therefore, he agreed to rent it to us until we built our house. So, we packed up all the things we had accumulated at the house for the last 13 years and our 3 girls and dog, and moved to this house.
We moved in that house in July 2014. After we were there 3 months, he had someone call and make an offer on the house. He told them that he couldn’t sell now because he had committed to us. But we said “If you have the opportunity to sell the house, you need to take it.”
So…… the day after Thanksgiving 2104 (4 months after moving in), we moved out. We had barely unpacked the boxes.
I knew the girls’ pediatrician had been trying to sell her house (she had already moved to another house) for over two years. I called her and asked if she would be interested in renting and she was. Thank goodness! Luckily it was only about 6 blocks from the other house.
We moved in the last part of November 2014. Keep in mind we only took the essentials to these houses – all our other stuff was in storage. We felt that we would be able to move into our house in a few months and there would be no need to bring everything to a house we knew would be temporary. We didn’t even bring a bed frame for Kate – she slept on her box spring and mattress on the floor. We brought no pictures, decorations, books (other than a few children’s books), limited kitchen supplies, etc…
Well, it took a bit longer than we had anticipated. There was a particular builder that we had heard great things about and after meeting with him we decided that we wanted him to build the house. However, he was so busy with other houses that he couldn’t begin for a couple of months.
Also, my husband is a civil engineer and he absolutely tore the house plan apart. Pulled out a wall here, added a full basement, garage, changed the windows, roof line, etc…. All of that took A LOT of time. Meanwhile I was desperate to get into a home of our own. I didn’t care if it were a one room shack! Did I mention that patience is not one of my gifts in life : )
We FINALLY moved in the first weekend of November 2016. Yes, over 2 1/2 years later. (sigh) I can say without a doubt that waiting for our builder was absolutely the right decision. He was AMAZING! He is a perfectionist and we never had to worry about anything being done right, because he would make sure everything was absolutely perfect. He had some of the subcontractors come back and redo things because it was not up to his standards. I can rest assured that our house is as well built as any house can be.
When we finally moved in, I was ELATED!!! Finally a house where we could settle. And put things on the walls, and decorate, and find all my kitchen things again!!!
Along the way, I knew that the process was stressful and that not being “settled” in a house was stressful as well. However, I did not know exactly how much of a toll this had taken on me until after we moved. It’s really hard not to have a place to call your own – not to hang your children’s pictures, not to buy any curtains, rug, shower curtain to match and make it feel like home. I felt like I was camping for over 2 years! Not to have a place where your children feel at home…. (Our youngest who is 3 has lived in 4 different houses – and has had each birthday in a different house). I know this may sound very trivial to some, but it took an emotional and psychological toll on me that I didn’t even realize at the time. I just blocked out a lot of my emotions along the way because I knew there was really nothing I could do to speed up the process. I just kept my head down and plugged along the best way I could. If I didn’t, if felt like I would break down and fall apart – and the Mama can’t fall apart because then the kids will fall apart!
So today, our house is my favorite. Praise God that we got through this process still married and our family in tact!
Avery +2/-2, Brooke +8/0, Kate +14/-4, Me +1/-4, My Husband +3/0, New house +3/-1, Jack(d0g) +0/-1